this knowledge was dropped at 2:30 am.
As I transition myself off of sabbatical (and evlove the rest of this post in the morning), I would have to say one of my biggest pet peeves are Dyck’s chick (most likely from all the ya-ya/traveling pants, joy luck club, waiting to exhale, Jane Austen, Emile Bronte, Toni Morrison, bell hooks and Naomi Wolf school of thought in which I was birthed.)
What are Dyck’s chicks ? these are messy (mentally and emotionally), self-destructing women who would rather die with said member in her mouth, than be an emotionally intelligent woman. Their priorities are all fycked up. They long to be lovers rather than mothers (to their own child/children which they always have usually exhibiting the same dyck chickish behavior) and mind-melding into what some penis du jour thinks of her dumb @ssTODAY.
But wait there’s more. The above in isolation of all else would be fine. Hey as a future mental health professional (wishing to fuse eastern and western practice of cognitive therapy), the human condition is extremely fascinating to which I would prescribe her to take (1) lithium carbonate a yoga class, hit that sun lamp, and tell those other personalities to chill out, and call me in the morning. My problem is when it seeks to cause confusion. I think its all the inner turmoil and the constant need of male approval in which they need (but never quite get) to only then project onto others, invading personal and creative spaces.
The most impressive thing is when other people see the noise but put on their ipod headsets. I of course want to take mine off and do a mental assessment.
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Thursday, August 21, 2008 at 8:22 am
Out of curiosity is it okay for a chick to be a healthy mix of both?
Thursday, August 21, 2008 at 10:23 am
I don’t really think so. I’ll expound in a couple of hours.
Sunday, August 24, 2008 at 8:12 am
Usually these women make better lovers friends and wives than their opposites.
As a single black professional male, I like my professional easygoing non hostile non haughty towards me type of gal…. oh and giving me head is always a bright point as well
comeback is more right though, you cant really be a mix of both. its opposite mindsets. One is a marine, the other is in peace corps.
Sunday, August 24, 2008 at 8:23 am
to play devils advocate (as is my job being a guy on the gals blog)
here is food for thought and further debate…
since your god created man and woman to go together isnt this the correct way to work with him insted of independent of him or against him?
I have worked hard all year to figure out what I like in a woman. The thing I want the most in a woman is just for her to be nice and allow me to love her… but she also needs to be able to have a recognized need for a man.
Now Im sure the first response of a neysayer is “oh you cant handle/ are intimidated by a successful woman” but if you think about the women I am dating education and career wise they are more than elite.
I know I myself need a woman to love everyday and its just not going to fly well with me to date any more of the women who feel they dont need men or that men are their enemies.
I just want you to love me like I love you.
Sunday, August 24, 2008 at 7:15 pm
I don’t think that I ever stated or implied that working against a mate was ideal or even necessary. At some point I’d like to explore the male equivilent of the dyck’s chick.
I’m thinking that alot has to do with very little frames of reference for functional relationships and/ or the inability to put them into their true and proper perspective. Its a very dangerous proposition to commence a relationship with the assumption that all other relationships cease to exist not just friendships and other familial relationships but also your relationship with yourself.
Self identity is crucial in my opinion, any thing less boarders on co-dependency.
Men and women most certainly need each other, but not at the expense of compromising individual needs and identity.
Sunday, August 24, 2008 at 8:36 pm
OOOOOOOOH Comeback,
I could talk about this topic forever. I have a girkfriend in DC that literally disappeared after she got married and I was maid of honor in her wedding. We rarely speak and now she has a young son. I literally wrote her off but the other day she texted (is that a word?)me about wishing me a belated birthday. I called her and I told her that she was on my s–t list. She really didn’t get it especially when she said that her world was her son’s world. No matter the two-three degrees she has or the career success she had, it seemed that all that hard work was just filling up time until she got married which is just sad.
I think this dyck chick syndrome comes from women with seriously low self esteem.
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