Comeback Lovelies,
The one thing that gives me ULCERS-the kind that brother SBM gets, are people who speak untruths (or THEIR personal truths masked as universal law), specfically other men who tell women that good men are really really hard to find). If it wasn’t Sunday night, I’d cuss.
That’s bullshyt to me (its 12:01pm Monday morning lol). Firstly, I always talk about the power of the tongue. Language is important and shows up to align with your perception and view of the world. Secondly, it just isn’t true. I was in church today and I saw at least 6 or 7 single black men ages (25-40) sitting in my little section of equal amounts of single women who appeared to be within the same age group, close enough for me to observe and ponder with my naked eye. I’m not saying to rush out to church to meet a man nor that all single men in church are “good”. If that is your sole purpose in getting a word on Sunday, he will NOT SHOW UP THERE and if he does HE WON’T BE WHAT YOU WANT, trust.
What I am saying is that: GOOD SINGLE MEN ARE EVERYWHERE IN GREAT SUPPLY.
So let me illustrate to you below what happens when we believe the Black Man Pixie Dust Theory. The one that highlights that there are 30 women to one man:
Chance & Real
We get a reality show that further perpetuates the lies men tell each other and us, on and off of VH1. We get men who behave badly because again he sold you the urban myth that its less of him and more of you (this concept really only benefits him in the smorgasbord of love). And you (as a woman) continue to block your blessings because you believe it. I guess you missed the memo, that there is someone perfectly designed for you.
Do all my Comeback Lovelies (male and female) believe that?
I personally do. I also believe that whomever you are with is also predestined as well. I further believe that people are your rite of passage. You love really wrong to hopefully learn how to get it right (or a better version of right). But when we buy-into the scarcity concept, in that there is a shrinking supply of single men, It causes women to act in a way that assures “the one” is either hard to find or in fact doesn’t exist, as the Black Male Urban Legend suggests.
So lets have a fireside chit chat..where are the single men ???? (hint: http://www.microcenter.com/at_the_stores/rockville.html lol. I’m not lying. lol
do you believe in soul mates? What do you think about the whole Black Male Urban Legend Scarcity Theory, particularly when it comes from other black men? Is my Urban Legend statistic even correct? Am I blowing pixie dust up your butt?
311 Comments
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:28 am
There are plenty of “good” men out there and we “women” don’t have to share. I think some men and women use that as an excuse to do what they do.
I am a romantic at heart and believe there are such things as soul mates; but I also believe that sometimes the person we think is our soul mate is really not. If the person was truly “the one,” then we wouldn’t have heartbreaks and divorces; “the one” wouldn’t be cheating with you while he goes home to his wife; “the one” wouldn’t be stringing you along while he sows more wild oats; “the one” wouldn’t be beating you, etc.
A person’s true soul mate will be what that person needs and vice-versa. They will compliment each other.
P.S. – I just love Real’s hair. He has pretty hair.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:35 am
“He has pretty hair.”
Oh Shelia (to the tune of “ready for the world”) why do wanna be sharing a flat iron dear? lol
“then we wouldn’t have heartbreaks and divorces; “the one” wouldn’t be cheating with you while he goes home to his wife; “the one” wouldn’t be stringing you along while he sows more wild oats; “the one” wouldn’t be beating you, etc.
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I agree with this..but this kind of “love” isn’t pre-ordained. I believe that if it belongs to you don’t share…nor is your soul mate another woman’s husband.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:24 am
Comeback, I do believe that there is someone out there for everyone. I can also agree with Shelia that when you’re with “the one” none of those big problems exist. I think that there will be little things, but you will fight and work on it because you want to be that person. I’m thinking Notebook: “It’s not gonna be easy…”
I also think it is very important to put things out there in a positive way. We can all see what kinda change can take place when positive energy abounds. I really think you have to take note of that in your relationship as well.
Finally, just because you have found “the one” doesn’t mean you don’t have to talk and communicate. That’s the only way it’s ever really gonna be able to work…my personal belief is that in any relationship there are three people…God, you and your mate…more on this later.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 7:39 am
I agree with you all in that there really is no shortage of men. Thing is that, I thought it was a shortage of good men around “me”. Which is/was kinda my own fault. I think the lack of men around me caused me to want to better myself, as in get it together, so I could venture out to different cities and countries. I always knew it was men out there, I just couldn’t afford the plane ticket to them!!
lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 7:39 am
Jac whats the friggin secrect!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 7:50 am
You are going to hell for that picture of those lame-os. LOL.
“You love really wrong to hopefully learn how to get it right (or a better version of right)”
Amen to this Comeback.
I believe that God has designed THE ONE for everybody. I believe that this is already pre-destined but b/c we do things that are not His way, including pre-marital sex, shacking up, etc., we block our own blessings.
Jeremiah 29:11 says that basically He knows our hearts desires and has plans for us; for us to prosper and be happy…. all we have to do is follow His way.
It took me a minute to learn this but I believe I’m truly on my way.. there’s someone out there, just as fabulous as me (*wink) and He will send him when He thinks I’m good and ready and won’t screw it up.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:02 am
I know there are good men out there, I am one but I’m not single. But I have plenty of single friends that are gude dudes too. In the Northeast (I’m from Jersey), alot of women try to act snoody towards men that approach them. This pushes men away in general and then ya’ll wonder why we don’t holla. The same way men have to “man-up” and approach a woman, women need to “woman-up” and give us a chance. Sadly is a persons looks are the first impression. Some people can’t pass that test.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:25 am
“Sadly is a persons looks are the first impression. Some people can’t pass that test.”
Amen. I’m def a stickler for first impressions. This man tried to get at me this morning, but he’s too OLD… and I know it… we always speak, I pass him every morning on my way in to work. He’s told me about his daughter who was around my age… I lied and told him that I had a man… Although I appreciate his compliments, “you always look so put together and professional… it’s a pleasure to see you every morning.” I could NOT reciprocate.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:25 am
@ JAC “I also think it is very important to put things out there in a positive way. We can all see what kinda change can take place when positive energy abounds. I really think you have to take note of that in your relationship as well. ”
i agree..this should happen though way before you commence a relationship with another man. This should be happening in a relationship with yourself FIRST.
@ Mik..”Which is/was kinda my own fault. I think the lack of men around me caused me to want to better myself, as in get it together, so I could venture out to different cities and countries. I always knew it was men out there, I just couldn’t afford the plane ticket to them!!”
so you’re saying there are NO men in Detriot? Look at Hummy and Why So lol….
@ Sunny “Which is/was kinda my own fault. I think the lack of men around me caused me to want to better myself, as in get it together, so I could venture out to different cities and countries. I always knew it was men out there, I just couldn’t afford the plane ticket to them!!”
I agree with this too. But what about people who NEVER find the one..90 years old and never been married no companion that they felt was it?
@ J “This pushes men away in general and then ya’ll wonder why we don’t holla. The same way men have to “man-up” and approach a woman, women need to “woman-up” and give us a chance. Sadly is a persons looks are the first impression. Some people can’t pass that test.”
I realize I need to be better about being nice to men. But some men can catch you off gaurd..and they say sometimes unnice things to get your attention. And even unnicer things when what you respond with isn;t what they wanna here. men need to learn to read social clues. If Im rushin tryna get somewhere, maybe tryna slow me down to hollar is not the answer.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:26 am
oh and i disagree with the whole can’t pass the looks test. One man’s ugly is another man’s treasure.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:28 am
Why does my 3rd eye with glucoma tell me J is trying to play match maker???
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:30 am
“Why does my 3rd eye with glucoma tell me J is trying to play match maker???
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Ummm Jay…step into my office LOL…ok..I’m gonna have a “meat market” section to this blog. I can handpick some people with pics, measure ments etc..you handpick some people with the same…
BAM…have them report back on the blogs with their impressions of the first date.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:31 am
“I agree with this too. But what about people who NEVER find the one..90 years old and never been married no companion that they felt was it?”
See that’s where I have questions… I’ve heard people say that in the bible, it says not everyone has desires in their heart to be “matched up.” And God has it in his plans for some singles. I haven’t read this part yet, so I really don’t know the answer to this one, chica.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:31 am
“so you’re saying there are NO men in Detriot? Look at Hummy and Why So lol”
Hummy and Why so are like my brothers from different mothers….
and comeback stop that multi tasking, your messing up ur responses lol.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:31 am
“Ummm Jay…step into my office LOL…ok..I’m gonna have a meat market. I can handpick some people with pics, measure ments etc..you handpick some people with the same…
BAM…have them report back on the blogs with their impressions of the first date.”
Well awright… yaw need some Kentucky/ Indiana male pickins for me. LOL.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:32 am
“and comeback stop that multi tasking, your messing up ur responses lol.”
Yeah comeback you confrused the heck out of me with your response to mine, but I kinda winged it.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:33 am
im sorry Sunny and Mik..this site is being redeveloped for lack of sleep and multitasking..LOL..sorry k?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:37 am
“this site is being redeveloped for lack of sleep and multitasking..LOL..sorry k?”
Bless your heart. Take a nap girl.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:41 am
right Nicki comeback no starbucks for you today for your own sake lol.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:43 am
I can;t take a nap..i can nap when I die LOL…
oh yeah let me hit the bucks now.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:47 am
“I can;t take a nap..i can nap when I die LOL…
oh yeah let me hit the bucks now.”
LOL, Comeback, I’m a sleeping mo-fo’.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:52 am
First I would like to say that I got up at 6:30 in the am and went to the gym this morning and I feel GREAT!!!
Okay on to the post…yeah this is that bullshit. There are just as many single eligible and good men as there are women in this world. They are just as many gay women as there are gay men, there are just as many trifling @ss women as there are trifling @ss men…so it’s safe to assume that the ratio is pretty even.
The problem is that we want something that isn’t always what we need. We create this perfect image of a man that has to have all qualities instead focusing on the main ones that matter…being love, honesty, respect and loyalty.
Yes there are other things that should be important, ie. ambition, stability, and so forth…but counting a man out b/c of our shallow desires is just silly and is the REAL reason that there are so many single women out there…but there are just as many single men for the same reasons, lol.
Let’s DO BETTER in 2009!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:56 am
The numbers dont lie… so to a point I dont think there is a soulmate out there for everyone… with the vast number of men in jail, gay, or not checking for black women, are options are scarce. So unless you factor is divorce where a man can be a soulmate for 10 years to one women and then 5 years to the next that’s the only way I see it working because we are so out numbered. Now with that said I do believe there are good men out there… just because there are less options doesn’t mean that there are any less good men.
I still have hope that my brother to the night will find me…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 8:57 am
I’m gonna be MIA again I have another 7 page paper due today as well as a few chapter summary assignments…and although I tried to do it yesterday at my new beau’s house while he was watching football I was just so damn distracted…but I did get 2 pages done, so the rest should be a breeze.
Oh and we’re still not doing the do…this is very different for me. I’m a sexual person and supressing those desires are not easy, ESPECIALLY since he’s so damn sexy(and a motivation for me to regain my sexy tenfold)…oh well, I digress.
Later yall.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:00 am
Oh yeah and the aforementioned situation has forced me to bring back wearing underwear, lol…ok i’m going for real this time.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:09 am
“Oh yeah and the aforementioned situation has forced me to bring back wearing underwear, lol…”
LOL… glad to hear you are doing good with the new love, T.
I called Mik’s a Tenderoni.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:14 am
@ Teacia
in my maxine shaw voice
cut – it – out
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:17 am
Hi All! I try not to believe in the ratio (sometimes I can’t help it) but I don’t let the ratio nonsense dictate my actions while pursuing a relationship. I am still going to demand the best and expect that you will treat me like a lady… and I am definitely not excepting less or being 2nd, 3rd, or 4th.
I do believe there is someone out there for everyone, but the real question is would you be ready for that person when they enter your life….
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:18 am
“This should be happening in a relationship with yourself FIRST.”
Absolutely. How can you bring happiness into your relationship if you don’t have it on ur own? I say do you…then worry about what comes next later….
*remembers something to post*
Mik: I got the sweetest love, can’t nothing beat it….
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:20 am
Jac I need you to expound please do you need to email me chile?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:23 am
Nope….well maybe, let me think
And should I find a need to e-mail it will include Comeback, Nicki and you…yep yep
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:25 am
alrighty then Jac!!!
where are the boys this murnin (worksite nicki)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:27 am
@ “The numbers dont lie”
Eb & Holly…what are the numbers. Who came up with them? I know some real simple biological ones..there are more women than men in the WORLD. But what about opening up your experience to other non-black men?
@ Tea..you don;t waste NO time do you. lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:27 am
**** Wondering where our testosterone is too.. I only get it on the ‘nets. LOL
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:29 am
From the Desk of Your Favority Blog Baby,
My senior thesis is due TOMORROW. Yes, it has been brought to my attention that no one realized I was doing this whole finish thing (since I already commenced). Therefore, should I lag in blog responsibility nudge me.
Also, can I get a Palin-style my fair ladyin’ (Comeback) on how the Declaration of Independence, Constitution, Gettysburg, Emancipation Proclamation and such provide for black people…but yet leave them slap out in the cold creating yet another problem for blacks?
I love you all,
Jac
PS-Due some kinda behavior I will be e-mailing my lovely blog sisters (Humble)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:31 am
“Therefore, should I lag in blog responsibility nudge me.”
You are forgiven… let me go ahead and write some things ahead of time so I won’t be surprised. LOL
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:33 am
But what about opening up your experience to other non-black men?
You are right, Comeback… You should open yourself up to other races….
I just believe in the ratio sometimes…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:35 am
Good morning all……
I think that ratios are scary but I don’t give them too much thought because I know as Comeback says there’s a “pot for every lid” or is it a “lid for every pot”….lol
Your surroundings can have you thinking that finding “the one” is not going to happen too though. I look at my own family and I have 8 aunts and only one of them is married. Me and my sister laugh and say we don’t want that curse but it does make you think about the possibility of being single a lot longer than you expected.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:36 am
“But what about opening up your experience to other non-black men?”
yea umm notgonnabeabletodoit
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:37 am
unless the “other” is robin thicke, and even then its questionable because I’ve seen him dance and its NOT a good look lol.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:37 am
“Your surroundings can have you thinking that finding “the one” is not going to happen too though. I look at my own family and I have 8 aunts and only one of them is married. Me and my sister laugh and say we don’t want that curse but it does make you think about the possibility of being single a lot longer than you expected,”
Living in a crappy city can put you in a wild panic. Trust. I go through a mild depression once in a while.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:37 am
LOL Why Anitra?? Honestly I have been seeing a few nice non-black men!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:38 am
“unless the “other” is robin thicke”
How about David Becham’s twin (if he had one!).. he’d def make me cross over.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:40 am
David Beckham is definitely on the he can get it list…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:42 am
I love an other with dark hair…. Ump, ump.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:43 am
“How about David Becham’s twin (if he had one!)”
lmao, yea I could go for that
Holly I dunno, I do know however if i did find an “other” it would probably be because he reminds me more of a black man than a white one, and I think that would defeat its purpose for some odd reason lol.
I know some numbers that don’t like the “penises are bigger” I dunno where the stats are but I just know its true for the majority so……
*blank stare*
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:44 am
“Also, can I get a Palin-style my fair ladyin’ (Comeback) on how the Declaration of Independence, Constitution, Gettysburg, Emancipation Proclamation and such provide for black people”
@ Jac..are you serious..this aint no two sentence …chaos theory batman correlation …cause off the dome i can’t really think how they did with the exception of the Emanicipation proc. thats gonna take some rumination over coffee. I aint never left..brb.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:45 am
“black man than a white one, and I think that would defeat its purpose for some odd reason lol.”
But never get the others that have been watching too much MTV/BET, listening to Lil Wayne that somehow feel like they can emulate the culture. It’s embarrassing and just wrong.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:45 am
oh..i have proclaimed that i WILL go on a date with at least ONE white guy before i slow the party down…maybe somebody at micro center??? not sure. lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:46 am
“oh..i have proclaimed that i WILL go on a date with at least ONE white guy before i slow the party down…maybe somebody at micro center??? ”
LOL @ slow the party down… I’m gonna have to google micro center (have no clue what this is!)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:47 am
ROTFLMAO @ Nicki
not that black lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:47 am
” I’m gonna have to google micro center (have no clue what this is!)”
Disregard… I obviously have my slow helmet on today
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:48 am
This week, I will be doing a special relationship series – What Do Men Want? on my blog. You will hear directly from the men themselves. Each day a new question will be asked and each one of the men on the panel, will have his say.
Today’s Question – Who Do Men Really Want? Read to find out what the men answered:
http://sheliagoss.com/2008/11/10/what-do-men-really-want/ or http://www.sheliagoss.com/blog
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:48 am
Comeback-Just off the top of the ol’ dome you’re right they don’t. Basically all we get is to be freed because it looked good politically. Now, since we had no living memory of freedom wtf? were we supposed to do? FAIL. That right there is the grandfather of all our problems. Lincoln hated us, he just wanted to be re-elected.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:48 am
Comeback I’ve been single for almost 3 months…I think it’s time.
Besides this one appeared out of nowhere and he’s a good guy, the timing has never been better…we’re BOTH ready to settle down and are emotionally open to something more. I don’t know the last time the stars aligned like this…and he’s 31, so I don’t have worry about the foolishness that comes with young age.
Yeah, I’m not letting this one pass…but don’t worry I’m not always readily available, I’m still multi-tasking to pass the time and I do require him to book a date with me days in advance…except yesterday, I cancelled on him Friday and told him that I would hang with him yesterday to make up for it.
Jac: if i didn’t have a paper today and another 10 pg. paper due next week I would definitely burn some of my brain cells to help, but lawd oh lawd chile I need all of the ones I have right now.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:49 am
“maybe somebody at micro center??? ”
fell out my chair
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:50 am
@Mik: “not that black lol”
Good girl.. cause it WON’T work. LMAO
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:51 am
Jac, I’m usually great at b-s’in papers but my two LITERAL FACTS ONLY chemistry classes this semester have totally screwed that up…
The EmancProc… that is obvious b/c that is the one that freed the slaves, right? So, you need to know specifically how that helped us or what????
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:52 am
@ “and he’s 31, so I don’t have worry about the foolishness that comes with young age”
Teacia SAY WHAT…i do wanna say i am happy for you. But some time men get stupider with age. 31 doesn’t absolve any man from being foolish. Though iwill admit that the liklihood lowers a bit.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:53 am
ya’ll are hilarious!!- Nicki and Anitra
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:54 am
I’ve been told before that a man will not come and sweep me off my feet on the white horse and that I think in terms of black and white and need to look outside the box and you know what I told that nagga ! “I CALL BULLSHAT!”
i think naggas tell broads this shat so that they will settle for the 75% these naggas wanna give and put out. They figure if you settle for the 75% and occassionally give you 90% that you will figure you cant do any better than him. WRONG! if one will do something for you another man is probably willing to do the same or more.. [ i think i'm off topic now but anyway]
I call BULLSHAT! There is a man out there that will be the end all be all for me. I believe in soulmates as well but I dont believe we are meant to be with our soulmates .. like I have one .. but we should never be together but I wouldnt want him out of my life ever..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:01 am
re the declaration of indie..it has a really fascinating history. Apparently Thomas Jefferson and John Adams argued a bit about including blacks specifically..”we hold these truths to be self-evident that all men are created equal”..big issue with South Carolina etc..look it up.
also each doc was kind of living and breathing so to speak..open for interpreation of its respective time..since non specifically leaves us out..i dunno.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:02 am
Good Morning Mon Cheres,
I don’t believe in soul mates. I think there are a couple ppl out there that one can make it work *snap* with. There may be a lot of “good” men out there, but am I going to mesh with all of them? Will I be attracted to all of them? I was looking at NeNe’s (yea, back to RHWoA) husband, he’s not a looker but he’s good to her. If he had not helped her out of her effed up situation prior to him, I doubt he would’ve had a chance. I think at some point women are like look, my son needs a father-figure, my bills need to get paid, I need help dammit…let’s make it work.
And another thing (!) …
all these “good” single men may not be “ready” for a relationship. I think it’s easier for a woman to look at what she has and start giving ultimatums like “put a ring on it” while most men are like woah now…I’m not ready for that type of commitment and not necessarily marriage but to even commit to a relationship. (sorry to use you like this bruh but *cough* No Mo is a prime example)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:06 am
“why do wanna be sharing a flat iron dear? lol”
Exactly Comeback. I couldn’t date a guy whose hair is prettier than mine…well unless he kept it cut real short like Al B Sure…lol
Jac–communication is important and the lack of can end a relationship.
Mikki–a good man will find you. We don’t have to look for them…but we do need to make ourselves accessible.
One of my best friends has been blocking her blessing because she’s been dealing with a man who doesn’t have her best interest at heart. I talked to her last night and I’m happy that she’s finally decided to move on from the destructive relationship.
Nicki – Thanks for the scripture.
J McFly – Darn it…the good men are always taken…lol…I admit sometimes we might be unapproachable, so yes that’s something we, women, as a hold can work on if we’re looking to date. Flash that smile and harmless flirting never hurts
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:06 am
@ Jolie “I call BULLSHAT! There is a man out there that will be the end all be all for me. I believe in soulmates as well but I dont believe we are meant to be with our soulmates .. like I have one .. but we should never be together but I wouldnt want him out of my life ever..
”
WHAT??? you believe that you aren’t meant to be withyour soul mate? so yall like star crossed lovers and shyt? Im sorry i love you an all..but that don’t make no dam#n sense to me.
@ Cuzzo..did you just call No mo out or what LOL oh my God. lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:07 am
“it’s easier for a woman to look at what she has and start giving ultimatums like “put a ring on it” while most men are like woah now”
I’m def not with giving a man an ultimatum.. Instead I believe in being honest with yourself. When you first start dating, be honest… if you are looking for a relationship, be vocal about it. I’ve lied plenty of times and played the “I’m not looking for nothing game,” and actually had the nerve to get mad when it was not mutual. Thing was, he was honest the entire time, I was not.
The beginning is the best time to weed them out. If he says specifically he doesn’t want a relationship and I know I do, then we aren’t going to work. He’ll get put into the friends category and not the “prospectives.”
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:08 am
Mad cuzzo brought Heroes into this “yelling” He is an innocent by standard!!!!
(coughsikecough)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:09 am
Comeback:Yes. Exactly…It didn’t leave us out cause it said WE the people, but it didn’t provide for the offspring of those 20 folks they stole off the boat either. AND you know the EP….it’s not widely studied but Seward was pretty clear that they were freeing slaves in Southern states with the hope of ruining their economy, whereby freeing slaves where “we” can’t control and leaving slaves where we can free them….so IF the slave states had rejoined the Union they could have kept slavery for a little longer and possibly forever.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:10 am
@80’s
“Your surroundings can have you thinking that finding “the one” is not going to happen too though.”
My fam is mixed on the marriages – 6 aunt’s and uncles all together, of that 2 are divorced (uncles) 3 married (1 uncle, 2 aunts) and 1 single aunt…my mom is single too. In dating…I have an affinity towards dudes whose parents are together. I think since they have the example (depending on the fam life – cuz mom’s and dad’s can be together but the house is “cold”) they would want to or know how to go that route.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:10 am
“ESPECIALLY since he’s so damn sexy(and a motivation for me to regain my sexy tenfold)…”
LOL Teacia. You can do it!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:24 am
@J.Mc
” In the Northeast (I’m from Jersey), alot of women try to act snoody towards men that approach them. ”
blah. I think comeback responed to this already…it may just be bad timing. And what is being said to get a snooty response? Yo, lemme holla at you …will get u an eye roll. And if she’s not even atrracted to dude…fuhgetaboutit.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:24 am
@ Cuzzo…..
I have an affinity towards dudes whose parents are together. I think since they have the example (depending on the fam life – cuz mom’s and dad’s can be together but the house is “cold”) they would want to or know how to go that route.
I agree because my parents have been married for 27 years and I want someone who shares my desire of eventually getting married. However, I don’t automatically rule someone out if their parents were not married but I need to know their views. For example, their parents may have been shacking up and they think that’s all they need to do. That’s not gonna work for me but it might work for the next person.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:27 am
“I agree because my parents have been married for 27 years and I want someone who shares my desire of eventually getting married. ”
See I can’t agree with this… b/c my parents have been married for my entire life but they have never seemed happy…. they’re communication is out of whack too. I don’t want to be this way. I love my parents but I use them as an example of how not to be.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:28 am
@80’s
right, i don’t rule out one’s who’s folks are married or he didn’t know his dad…but my eyebrow raises for the ones from a wholely happy home
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:29 am
^^that should say “aren’t” married
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:33 am
@ Nicki
“See I can’t agree with this… b/c my parents have been married for my entire life but they have never seemed happy…. they’re communication is out of whack too. I don’t want to be this way.”
I’m confused. So because of your parent’s marriage you don’t want to eventually get married?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:34 am
“I agree because my parents have been married for 27 years and I want someone who shares my desire of eventually getting married. ”
I am with Nicki, I can’t 100% judge a man because his parents are married. I would need see the relationship in progress to make a call on how he would be. Some married people suck, living in the same house sleeping in different beds.
I know some things that I see a lot of couples doing im not gonna be able to like the separate bank account thing is not gonna work for me. But thats just me, I think its gonna be lots of trial and error going on, but thats why you talk about it before you jump all into it.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:36 am
80’s if im correct (and correct me if im wrong) I think what Nicki was saying was that just because you are married doesn’t exactly mean things are happy.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:37 am
“I’m confused. So because of your parent’s marriage you don’t want to eventually get married?”
Oh no 80s… I’m just saying, when I get married, I know how not to act. Sorry girl.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:38 am
“I can’t 100% judge a man because his parents are married”
i agree with this too. my last bf bragged about his parents being together..but there relationship was not ideal. He kinda bossed her around ALOT. She worked more and harder and it went unappreciated in my opinion-like expected. And there was a whole bunch of duty no romantic love stuff i could pickk up . It was a totally unequal situation.
everything married aint prototype.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:39 am
See…I’m not definitely going to say that I need someone whose parents are still married simply because my parents have been divorced since I was 12. But they’re happier. Case in point their 36th anniversary would be tomorrow. I couldn’t find them over the weekend because they were all up and through @ my Mom’s homecoming. I appreciate that they are first friends and still a team for their grown daughter.
In fact, I love my parents (Humble)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:47 am
I’ve found that men who were raised by their grandparents are really good boyfriends, husbands .. friends.. [this is just my general observation]
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:51 am
@Jac
are u works siting or just randomly writing (Humble)?
“Some married people suck, living in the same house sleeping in different beds.”
yes. and this is not what I was alluding to 80’s…like he must be a good catch simply because his parents are married. there are many other factors of course…
He may be like Nicki and see that his parents marriage is not one that he’d like to be in.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:52 am
Yay the last guy I wasted time with parents were still married but his mom bossed his dad around and it caused him to have several issues- the main being commitment phobia…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:54 am
@Jolie
“I’ve found that men who were raised by their grandparents”
yea…the parent/grandparent/aunt/uncle/foster parent stuff doesn’t really matter…think it boils down to them being raised by a “whole” (and happy) family
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 10:55 am
“think it boils down to them being raised by a “whole” (and happy) family.”
AMEN Cuzzo!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:04 am
@ Jolie “I’ve found that men who were raised by their grandparents are really good boyfriends, husbands .. friends.. ”
imma have to research this..but i would like you clarify the statement about soul mates not being who you end up with.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:11 am
I think Jolie’s right and sometimes those raised by single moms.
Umm Cuzzo-I am parentheticalizing.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:14 am
“everything married ain’t prototype.”
Amen to that one!
Oh and MornTin. Hope all of you fabulous ladies had equally fab weekends.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:15 am
@Jac
“parentheticalizing”
que? this is not in my glossary.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:17 am
It means if it’s in parenthetically documented and a person’s name is in there you know who said it…
Do I need to write a post called Works Cite?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:17 am
“parentheticalizing”
not in mine either, i can even say the word…
*blank stare*
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:18 am
Ummm… I’m not for sure what just happened.
But I was agreeing to Cuzzo’s comment “I have an affinity towards dudes whose parents are together. I think since they have the example (depending on the fam life – cuz mom’s and dad’s can be together but the house is “cold”) they would want to or know how to go that route.” And I said “I agree because my parents have been married for 27 years and I want someone who shares my desire of eventually getting married. However, I don’t automatically rule someone out if their parents were not married but I need to know their views.”
Maybe I should have elaborated more but what I meant was that one of the reasons marriage is important to me is because my parents are married. I know that their marriage isn’t perfect and I don’t want a marriage like theirs but I still have an example to go by. Furthermore, in order for a relationship to even get taken to the step of marriage the desire has to be there…… And because I know I want to get married I want someone who shares that same desire.
Sooo ummm still not quite sure what happened….But ummm okay…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:21 am
@ “Umm Cuzzo-I am parentheticalizing.
”
can i workcite this…add it to the negro dictionary…i love it.lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:22 am
lol @ 80’s now I get it,
its like people who have positive examples to go by typically have the same desire to follow in the footsteps vs someone who had negative ones or non at all not so much.
its like if all the folks in your fam are doctors, the chances are that you are gonna be one to…
however everyone in my family are mail carries and I am NOT about to get chewed up by no dogs, i REFUSE!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:22 am
@80s: What just happened is I fell out over hunger [not serious... not all the way anyway]
And yes Jac, if you are going to make up words I need to have a post for a glossary for them.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:23 am
@comeback:”imma have to research this..but i would like you clarify the statement about soul mates not being who you end up with”
Well I think that there are people who are akin to your spirit and they know you inside and out. Now I have tried to be with this person and basically we are too much alike to be together. IT would take way to much changing on both of our parts. BUT I do believe he is my soulmate. I think the reason I made the statement was because often times we get caught up in having to find someone to be with forever that is our soulmate when that person isnt necessarily someone we need to marry but just have in our lives.. Does that make sense? Makes sense in my head but writing it confuses it..
Additionaly to kind of contradict myself .. I think we as a generation are totally confused by the difference between locating a soulmate and cultivating a soulmate. I think we get so wrapped up with finding some kind of elusive, tingly ‘aha!’ moment, that we totally forget that you can become a soulmate through endurance and determination and affection.. Even if you find your soulmate, you have to put a lot of effort into developing and sustaining that relationship.
So what i’m saying is that although I dont think you should be with your soulmate you can cultivate relationships to create that kindred spirit ie. soulmate. .
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:25 am
in response to the original post:
1)When a guy tries to throw that shit up in a woman’s face, it’s a lame attempt to overvalue himself. If a guy can’t create value for himself without resorting to these tactics, wrap it up. We are individuals, I don’t care about anyone else’s numbers.
2) “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. When a man or woman is ready for a partner, that’s when they will find them.
3)Yes, I believe in soulmates. However, soulmates don’t come pre-packaged. You have to put effort towards that, once you find a mate with the qualities that you like in yourself, you can get on that path….
well…theoretically….seriously.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:25 am
@comeback
“can i workcite this…add it to the negro dictionary…i love it.lol”
that’s too many d@mn syllables for our dictionary…we’s a simple people.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:27 am
@80’s
“Sooo ummm still not quite sure what happened….But ummm okay…”
sometimes it bee’s like dat in here (i use this face, o_O). lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:28 am
“we’s a simple people.”
I think I died here.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:28 am
I don’t wanna worksite the word I just wanna know what it means and how to pronounce it!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:30 am
@why
“However, soulmates don’t come pre-packaged. You have to put effort towards that, once you find a mate with the qualities that you like in yourself, you can get on that path….”
what is a soul mate to you then? i thought this whole soul mate stuff was about two ppl that just mesh effortlessly, being on the same wavelegnth, finishing each other sentences and what not.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:31 am
Jolie-Do you believe in multiple soulmates? I don’t think a soulmate simply has to be a romantic partner…for example, I believe my mother is one of mine, as well as baby K…spirits in flight and harmony….
Cuzzo-Don’t be slapping me in the face with my own shit…
Whyso-I think you are completely and totally right. Some soul mates have to be worked towards.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:33 am
can someone patent this
“boo’s in a box”
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:35 am
Wait…r we buying boo’s now?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:36 am
“Well I think that there are people who are akin to your spirit and they know you inside and out. Now I have tried to be with this person and basically we are too much alike to be together. IT would take way to much changing on both of our parts. BUT I do believe he is my soulmate. I think the reason I made the statement was because often times we get caught up in having to find someone to be with forever that is our soulmate when that person isnt necessarily someone we need to marry but just have in our lives.. Does that make sense? Makes sense in my head but writing it confuses it..
Additionaly to kind of contradict myself .. I think we as a generation are totally confused by the difference between locating a soulmate and cultivating a soulmate. I think we get so wrapped up with finding some kind of elusive, tingly ‘aha!’ moment, that we totally forget that you can become a soulmate through endurance and determination and affection.. Even if you find your soulmate, you have to put a lot of effort into developing and sustaining that relationship.
So what i’m saying is that although I dont think you should be with your soulmate you can cultivate relationships to create that kindred spirit ie. soulmate. .
”
this is really deep Jolie…can i (paratheticalize) some of this throughout the week here and my daily travels?
i would tend to agree about the likeness. And best friends can be one of your soul mates. Your dog can have a similiar relationship. but imma need to marinate on this.
so
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:37 am
@ Jolie – very well said/written (I’m just full of affirmations/validations this morning).
You and why so raise a few questions for me. I, like cuzzo, am wondering what a soulmate is to you all.
From my interpretation of things, Jolie is saying that a soulmate is not necessarily someone who we will marry but someone who will forever be a positive/insightful addition to our lives. She believes that we can find a person that fits well into our love lives and mold them into a soulmate (are we changing them, or is this a progression of experiences and intimacy?)
Why so is saying that a soulmate is reflection of ourselves. However, what if this reflection doesn’t fit well into a romantic relationship? Does that mean we’ll never find our soulmate? Are we settling if for less than if we can’t “make it work” with our soulmate? Are they not our soulmate if we can’t “make it work?”
I’m so confused…..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:39 am
@comback: “this is really deep Jolie…can i (paratheticalize) some of this throughout the week here and my daily travels?”
yes you may..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:43 am
I dunno about soul mates exactly but I do know there is someone for everyone…
I mean just because you can finish my sentence don’t mean we “suppose to be together”
come on nah lets use a little common sense here, im happy we like the same rock band but that does me no good if you can’t hold or keep a job…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:44 am
cuz…
soulmates have spiritual connection. You don’t have to finish each other’s sentences. In fact, nothing has to be said, you already know what they are thinking
on another note, one thing I will look at in women is their hobbies. It might be a good way to see how they invest in themselves as far as relationships go. If she don’t have any hobbies or extracurriculars, or interests…hmmmm…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:46 am
Further more I think as we get older our lives change, some one that was “meant” for us in high school may not be the same person 10 years later, doesn’t mean you can’t still love that person, but I think most of what we find in someone we care about has to do with where we are in our lives and who ever we pick to be with has to have the same goals an aspirations for the future.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:48 am
“In fact, nothing has to be said, you already know what they are thinking”
Exactly. When you’re with your soul mate words don’t even matter. Even to the point, you know when something is wrong with the person…for instance, I woke up one day about two weeks ago and the first thing I thought was something’s not right…and sure enough…it’s just knowing…
This is how I know what to fight for…there’s that man who looks at me and sees worry, sadness, joy, fear…and interprets it as though he is sitting at the center of my brain and I, quite frankly, cannot ask for anything more…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:52 am
“there’s that man who looks at me and sees worry, sadness, joy, fear…and interprets it as though he is sitting at the center of my brain”
I don’t think thats a soul mate thing
I just think thats a person who is in tune with the significant other he or she is with. Which to me has to do more with just stepping out side of yourself and realizing it aint always just about you.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:55 am
@Jac
I’m sorry…I don’t realize when I’m slapping.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:56 am
“I’m sorry…I don’t realize when I’m slapping.”
LMAO at Cuzzo and her flailing hands! Everybody gets it.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 11:59 am
Cuzzo-I need you to control yourself.
Anitra-I would say that it’s a person in tune if it hadn’t been like that from moment one. Where can I e-mail you?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:02 pm
guys “off topic”
I found this fabulously cute guess pea coat at one of the stores i shop at for $168, say a prayer that I go into burlington coat factory this weekend and find it for like 80 dollars less than the regular department store cuz i want that coat so bad!!
and the zipper broke on my coat this weekend so I HAVE to get a new one.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:03 pm
@why
“In fact, nothing has to be said, you already know what they are thinking ”
i was going to put that in there but felt it didn’t need to be said (pun intended) in regards to soul mate-ism. however, u said something about putting forth effort and getting on a path…all of this “doing” stuff. i feel like if it’s spiritual it should just be….
whatever it is, let it be… (J. Scott)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:04 pm
See Cuzzo, I think the maintenance has to be put in to maintain just things. I dunno, I think when it is it’s definitely a beautiful thing, but if you lack that surface communication it will never work.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:08 pm
“I found this fabulously cute guess pea coat at one of the stores i shop at for $168, say a prayer that I go into burlington coat factory this weekend and find it for like 80 dollars less than the regular department store cuz i want that coat so bad!!”
And if you can’t, I totally endorse splurging on a coat.. that is something that is an INVESTMENT. It will last
Oh, and you just can’t get the zipper fixed? Caught ya! You want a new coat. Just admit it.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:08 pm
@ jac and everyone incase ya don’t gotz it
clarkk1@michigan.gov
sometimes this email is flaky but its the only one i can faithfully check at work without being fired so forgive me if i dont get it the first time, or second, third, forth, or fifth or….
neva mind….
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:10 pm
“sometimes this email is flaky but its the only one i can faithfully check at work without being fired so forgive me if i dont get it the first time, or second, third, forth, or fifth or….”
And she is NOT exagerating.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:12 pm
“Oh, and you just can’t get the zipper fixed? Caught ya! You want a new coat. Just admit it”
ack cack cack @ Nicki damn you!! slapping me with my own shit how dare you!!!
I’m never gonna talk about budgets around you ever again!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:14 pm
“ack cack cack @ Nicki damn you!! slapping me with my own shit how dare you!!! ”
Girl, there’s nothing wrong with wanting a new coat. We’ve got to feel pretty and pink. I LOVE my coat I purchased last year. And pray nothing ever happens to it b/c it is FABULOUS.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:15 pm
cuzzo…
spirituality/soulmatedness has to be worked on. Anyone can pick up a basketball. but it takes a bit of effort to become K. Bryant.
A soul isn’t just something you have. It must be cultivated.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:16 pm
Right Nicki If I don’t find it at burlington I will wait a few weeks and see if it goes down a little. But I do wan it and its already snowing here in Michigan!!
arggggg
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:17 pm
@jac
“I think when it is it’s definitely a beautiful thing, but if you lack that surface communication it will never work.”
but, if two ppl are ure soul (spiritual) mates the communication is a given also. i wasn’t saying they were just gonna read ea others minds all day long, playing psychic charades.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:19 pm
“Right Nicki If I don’t find it at burlington I will wait a few weeks and see if it goes down a little. But I do wan it and its already snowing here in Michigan!!”
Ew… snowing??? I’m allergic to snow [not literally]
Girl, still $168 is not bad… if you want it, go for it.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:20 pm
LMFAO….@ psychic charades…this is true love about the communication
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:22 pm
@ Mik… Another option if you don’t want to pay full price is to sign up for their emailing list… Every now and then they’ll send you a 30 % off coupon….
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:23 pm
I’m so sick of people thinking that just cause I don’t get all googly about my boo that I’m not IN love with him.
I see my man EVERYDAY and EVERYDAY I tell him how much I love him and what he means to me. I don’t need to tell you cause we ain’t together. Now mind yo bidness and stop trying to project your unhappiness onto me!!!
Sorry, had to get that out. We now return to your regularly scheduled programming.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:24 pm
@why
“spirituality/soulmatedness has to be worked on. Anyone can pick up a basketball. but it takes a bit of effort to become K. Bryant.”
kobe wasn’t meant to be tiger woods even with all the practice in the world. micheal jordan was made for bball…remember he tried baseball and they threw his @ss back, lol.
*extends hand* we’ll just have to agree to disagree.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:27 pm
@Daisy…
o_O
o
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Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:29 pm
AWRIGHT Daisy… ain’t nothing wrong with it! Tell ‘em to stay outta yo’ business.
Okay, I’m the only person of color in my office. This is the second time one of the others have brought their child in and they act scared of me. WTF? They snuggle up to everybody else but won’t even look me in the eye. Foolishness!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:32 pm
nicki:I think it is abso hilarious when little white kids look @ u like they’ve never seen a blk person for
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:32 pm
@nicki
i too get that reaction when the kiddos come to my office. well, some of them….not all. but, i know what u mean.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:32 pm
Ok thank you 80’s your right I am gonna do that right nah!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:36 pm
“nicki:I think it is abso hilarious when little white kids look @ u like they’ve never seen a blk person for”
Man… yaw I was like WTF? I know I’m not Gargamel!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:38 pm
Lol @ Nicki “I’m not Gargamel”
I usually have good candy on my desk so the wonderful children never really notice I’m black. All they see is the candy. I guess I’m the suga momma.
**stands up in her office and proceeds to do a remake of B’s “Suga Momma” video.**
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:42 pm
Daisy-Sit yo ass down before they think you acting out…hell Obama ain’t totally in office
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:43 pm
“I usually have good candy on my desk so the wonderful children never really notice I’m black. All they see is the candy. I guess I’m the suga momma.”
Why does Daisy have me rollin on the floor over here? Maybe I need to get some candy.. No, no cause that is 85% of the problem. My greedy arse will eat it!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:46 pm
dang 80’s I went online and found a 15% off coupon, I called the store and the lady said I could use it but its only good for today!!!
I think the coat would end up being like $145!!
decisions decisions!!! ek!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:49 pm
“decisions decisions!!! ek!”
Get the damn coat!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:51 pm
Lol Jac, you know me too well….
GET THE COAT!!!
Next topic….
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:52 pm
@ Mik….
That’s a tossup because I’m pretty sure in the future especially around Thanksgiving you can probably get it for cheaper…. And Guess is funny when it comes to giving price adjustments…. It’s on you….
I seen one in their last winter and I wanted it but I didn’t want to pay full price for it… And one day I went in there and all coats were 30% off… And then when it was marked down cheaper I took it back and got a price adjustment. So mine’s started off as 148 but I think I ended up getting it for like 80 after it was all said and done..
Also girl, I’m with you on the budgeting and money stuff…. I don’t play…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:53 pm
lmao Nicki!!
oh the pressure!!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:55 pm
E-mail sent!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:55 pm
Anitra- get the coat!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:56 pm
haha @ yall yelling at me
80’s is the voice of reason thank the heavens, I am gonna wait a little longer on this one, somethin is telling me it will get marked down again.
I can’t pay that much for a coat and get my new boo something for Christmas and do blogger secret santa.
see yall im tryin to think of others n shat!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:57 pm
Oh yeah my coat vote-buy the damned coat!
And i couldn’t e-mail holly and 80s…so yeh I sowwy I don’t got no addresses, but one day I’ll be woo woo up and thru about it on here (comeback)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 12:59 pm
Jac my email is lshontelep@yahoo.com
Anitra, Old Navy is having a sale on their coats this week… they are 50% off! I got like 4 for a little over $200..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:00 pm
Thanks Holly I will check out old navy too, I am sure I can get a nice one for now, for a lot less until I can get the one I want.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Im telling you check it out! they have some really nice ones! I got a winter white one, green, brown, grey…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:04 pm
@ Mik…. Also try Marshall’s… The one here had a lot of Guess Peacoats reasonably priced……
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:04 pm
Hello Everyone,
Let me see if I can catch up and comment.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:04 pm
Ok I am for sure gonna go tomorrow, we got the day off at work tomorrow and I didn’t even know it!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:05 pm
@ Mik….
Girl, I’m off tomorrow too!!!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:06 pm
Im sad cause I will be at work tomorrow
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:08 pm
lmao 80’s you too!!!
what the heck is the holiday?????
you work for the gumment?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Me too Holly.
*speeding over to Old Navy.com*
Umm, thesis anyone?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:09 pm
Veteran’s Day
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:09 pm
@ Mik….
It’s Veterans Day!!!!! Yep I’m a federal gumment employee..lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:10 pm
Humble. I was wondering where the HELL you were.
@Daisy: OKKK at the green coat. Green is my favorite color!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:18 pm
I would first like to apologize for the ignorance you are about to witness but I couldn’t help it.
Yall I am so tired of the comments and blog topics about me with there being an absence of accountability. I had moved on with life but he can’t seem to move on with his and his constant attempts that a low blow has gotten the best of me and i have in turn written my own blog post.
Enjoy:
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=371255148&blogID=447839796
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:21 pm
Ok 80’s I work for state gumment lol, go us !!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:23 pm
*picks mouth up off of floor*
*blank stare, then goes to underground bomb shelter*
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:24 pm
@ Teacia..i peeped that one of three of his comments today. I sent positive energy over there we dont need no more payton place in the blogshere.
and thats where you take the highroad.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:27 pm
Comeback I really thought that the madness would end…I really did.
I’m thinking positive and I don’t bother that boy…I only read the post b/c someone told me I should know what he’s saying. I honestly am not the type to keep digging at people, my hostility is only momentary.
But I couldn’t let it go on any further, I refuse to. I’m sorry if I’ve upset anyone on here today.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:28 pm
WTF?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:33 pm
can some one clue me in??
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:34 pm
For him to know that I was raped and acted out as a way to supress those emotions and for him to then…*breathing deeply*….ok yall, i’m out.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:37 pm
“What I am saying is that: GOOD SINGLE MEN ARE EVERYWHERE IN GREAT SUPPLY.”
I agree. I think that women that say that there are no good men really need to evaluate what kind of men they are attracted to.
@Anitra
“I think the lack of men around me caused me to want to better myself, as in get it together, so I could venture out to different cities and countries. I always knew it was men out there, I just couldn’t afford the plane ticket to them!!”
I am glad you ventured out to escape us(Detroit men). After all we are just scumbags right?
@Comeback
“Teacia SAY WHAT…i do wanna say i am happy for you. But some time men get stupider with age. 31 doesn’t absolve any man from being foolish. Though iwill admit that the liklihood lowers a bit.”
*clears throat*
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:40 pm
@teacia: I read the blog on your myspace and choked on my White Tea Peach Papaya .. and spit it all over my monitor. thanks
and all i can say is awwwwwwwwwwwww SHAT!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:40 pm
Teacia I know it’s easy to say but don’t let him get to you… Misery loves company, and please don’t be his company…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:45 pm
Oh my goodness, I love J Hud, but “spotlight” makes me want to slit my wrists.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:46 pm
lmao Humble NO NO NO I don’t think all men in the D are scumbags at all honey, I love my city and the men in it for the most part. Just some of the things they subscribe to I can’t get with, but my boo is from Flint so I didn’t venture to far lol.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:46 pm
HELL YES! One of my friends has that as a ringtone… I baby barf everytime I hear it!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:46 pm
@nicki: I like that song ..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:49 pm
@Holly: OH MY GOD, never as a ringtone.
@Jolie: Oh Jeez… they got you too. J/K, J/K
why am I laughing at people falling lately?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RSH_pTcYoJA
Why do people paste stuff like this on youtube?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:52 pm
@Everyone
I can’t say that I totally believe in soul mates. Maybe it’s because part of me would rather have someone to go through the ups and downs of life with than someone to keep me in the clouds. I have known dudes to use the black man shortage. A lot of these dudes don’t have the greatest scruples. I think that some women that buy into the black man shortage are women that haven’t realized that you can’t have Obama/Tupac/Your gay friend all in one man.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:54 pm
“I think that some women that buy into the black man shortage are women that haven’t realized that you can’t have Obama/Tupac/Your gay friend all in one man.”
That is the most hilarious and possibly true thing I have heard……
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:54 pm
“women that haven’t realized that you can’t have Obama/Tupac/Your gay friend all in one man”
that bout sums it up lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:55 pm
” I think that some women that buy into the black man shortage are women that haven’t realized that you can’t have Obama/Tupac/Your gay friend all in one man.”
I’m tickled pink… this was really funny… and true.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 1:58 pm
” I think that some women that buy into the black man shortage are women that haven’t realized that you can’t have Obama/Tupac/Your gay friend all in one man.”
thanks for shatting on my dreams HUMBLE .. jk .. I knew it wasnt possible but a girl can dream.. right?! BUT actually there prolly is a guy out there like that but he prolly looks like Professor Klump and I’m too shallow for Mr. Klump.. maybe i need to work on that..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:00 pm
Wow @ Humble
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:00 pm
its funny how y’all change the subject to avoid the big ELEPHANT in the room.. lol..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:02 pm
“its funny how y’all change the subject to avoid the big ELEPHANT in the room.. lol..”
Sooooo, what about those Sabers??!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:02 pm
“Professor Klump and I’m too shallow for Mr. Klump”
Knowing is half the battle…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:03 pm
jolie-welllll….i mean…i am still kinda in shock and working on my thesis and well..somethings are just better left unsaid
umm…how about them jets?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:07 pm
No the Titans and Falcons!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:09 pm
LOL… do the Sabers even exist???
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:11 pm
Sabers? who is that? The team from The Game?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:12 pm
“Sabers? who is that? The team from The Game? ”
LMAO. Is that where I got it from b/c I do love that show!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:13 pm
Nic-not
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:13 pm
“I can’t say that I totally believe in soul mates. Maybe it’s because part of me would rather have someone to go through the ups and downs of life with than someone to keep me in the clouds. ”
@ Hummy I don’t think your soul mate keeps you from being real. But why do we always associate the constant struggle to love. Im not saying there won’t be challenges, but i would think going a challenge with asoul mate is much better than going through one who you throw a dart at a metaphoric relationship wall to get.
@ Jolie..we’re directing the elephant into Nick’s sunshine.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:14 pm
what about the pistons!!
*blank stare*
nawl seriously yall know they traded my boo’s billups n mcdice for damn iverson? someone tell me how trading 2 eye candies for one is fair!!!!
we the people need a recount!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:15 pm
“Nick’s sunshine”
Come on in, where’s it warm… let it envelope you, if you will. LOL
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:17 pm
@Jolie
“BUT actually there prolly is a guy out there like that but he prolly looks like Professor Klump and I’m too shallow for Mr. Klump.. maybe i need to work on that..”
that’s what i said earlier….there are a lot single “good” men out there…but are we gonna be attracted to them as well? not always. that’s the initial key…unless ya’ll begin talking anon…no pics, nothing and just connecting thru convo…the first thing that will get two people talking is attraction.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:20 pm
@cuzzo:”…the first thing that will get two people talking is attraction”
AMEN
Is today going by slow for anyone else?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:21 pm
@jolie
“its funny how y’all change the subject to avoid the big ELEPHANT in the room.. lol..”
it’s not funny…and the subject never stays the same up in here. i think we’ve all learned lessons after several episodes of high school musical: the ghetto years and the divorce.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:22 pm
“i think we’ve all learned lessons after several episodes of high school musical: the ghetto years and the divorce”
cuzzo you are a foo!!
im dyin laughin ova here
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:23 pm
Hey Jac.. someone linked us.
http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/11/10/20-tips-to-make-her-feel-like-a-woman/?disqus_reply=3666891#comment-3666891
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:24 pm
And Cuzzo… my third sister. I’m sorry girl… I keep forgettin like Michael McDonald. No more forgetting though.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:25 pm
lol ok Nicki
you know i was about to say something…i know i’m adopted and all.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:26 pm
ummm yeah…you guys are too serious in here
***puts on tribe called quest***
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:27 pm
I’m sorry Cuzzo…. I promise it won’t happen again. Being the oldest child, I sometimes forget my siblings.
@whyso: Play Bonita Applebum for me.. thatis MY JAM
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:28 pm
@jolie
not really…i have a ton to do. i’m the underling of the project managers and I hate this one PM’s projects! she makes the simplest sh!t so complicated….sending me 50-leven emails about the same d@mn thing.
*back to my happy place*
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:30 pm
@whyso: playin I left my wallet in el-sugundo
that is MY jam!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:31 pm
Off the subject! But I’m going to see Coldplay tomorrow I’m sooooo excited!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:33 pm
@Holly: My two girls LOVE Coldplay.. They got me to buy myself a Rush of blood to the head.. but it was too dreary for me… Although I do like the new song about living la vida or something.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:34 pm
i’m bringing sexy back
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:36 pm
@cuzzo: yes it isnt funny like “haha” .. my humor is lost on this subject.. nevermind ..moving on.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:36 pm
NICKI
I dont believe it
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:41 pm
LOL! Chris Martin is the shyt!! I am excited! Maybe I’ll find a non-black there
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:41 pm
@Jolie
*ka-blam* elephant officially shot…putting it’s head on the wall with santa clause.
@nicki
back to “the game” – hosea chanchez (and i shouldn’t know this negro’s real name) aka malik….could get it.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:42 pm
I like Coldplay..i can’t listen to them in the car tho. fix you is kinda sad to me..i didnt know men were in the fixin business. lol i like the scientist tho..that song is kinda old is it off their latest?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:42 pm
lmao @ Holly lookin for a boo at the coldplay concert you gone girl
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:43 pm
Cuzzo- Malik for real???
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:43 pm
@holly
“Maybe I’ll find a non-black there”
you will…but they are more likely to say something stupid. my bff went to their concert over the summer and she was around some drunkards
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:44 pm
why did cuzzo’s comment make
Bob Marley’s song I shot the sherif pop into my head??
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:45 pm
LMAO!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:46 pm
Anitra I am trying to diversify my portfolio
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:46 pm
@Cuzzo: “back to “the game” – hosea chanchez (and i shouldn’t know this negro’s real name) aka malik….could get it.”
Girl, you aint. never.lied. LOL
@Jac” Believe what girl?
I promise I wish there were sound tracks of music… I wish I could walk around all day and have songs follow me.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:47 pm
@holly
go on and say something about my play man, lol. he’s cute.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:47 pm
“I promise I wish there were sound tracks of music… I wish I could walk around all day and have songs follow me.”
Nicki I have this wish too….
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:48 pm
Cuzzo, I’mma whoop yo’ arse… where is your bio on “who we are?”
Jac, WTF is your picture?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:49 pm
“Nicki I have this wish too….”
Thank you my dear Holly… I”m glad to know I’m not the only “creative” one.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:50 pm
@nicki
right right right…yeaaa, see what had happened was…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:50 pm
“right right right…yeaaa, see what had happened was”
CUZZO, GET ON IT…
Ummm Jac… yeah, you over there quiet. You too.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:51 pm
cuzzo… i didnt think he was cute until this season… did you see it on friday? I like the way he manhandled Robin
nicki…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:52 pm
@ cuzzo…. I hate Malik’s peak!!! lol
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:53 pm
@holly
no…i haven’t been keeping up with the episodes this season. i saw him on baisden after dark the other night
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:54 pm
ohhh ok..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:54 pm
Who I hate on the show, is the mixed guy. He just seems like an arse… and they couldn’t have found a cuter little girl to play his daughter? And they couldn’t have toned down her “sass” a bit?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:55 pm
@80’s
i sedddd, don’t be talkin about my play boo. leave my lil count chocula alone – we can fix that peak
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:55 pm
I LOVE THE GAME! It doesn’t get as much credit as it deserves.
Would ya’ll have stayed with Derwin after he got ole girl pregnant?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:56 pm
Yeah I dont too much care for Jason either…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:57 pm
“Would ya’ll have stayed with Derwin after he got ole girl pregnant?”
See, that’s hard to say… They weren’t together, but still… Janae is quite a b…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:58 pm
@Daisy
“Would ya’ll have stayed with Derwin after he got ole girl pregnant?”
yes. i don’t have an explantion *shrug*
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:58 pm
I agree with Nicki
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 2:58 pm
oh my God the Game still comes on…i forgot all about that show since Girlfriends.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:00 pm
The Game is good! I started really getting into after Derwin cheated on Melanie!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:01 pm
“:oh my God the Game still comes on…i forgot all about that show since Girlfriends”
Come on Comeback, you’ve got to get with it. They put it on Friday nights now though.. thank GOD I have DVR!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:02 pm
Yeah you can also watch it online if you miss an episode at http://www.surfthechannel.com
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:05 pm
@Nicki – Yes, DVR is a MUST!
See, at first I said I would. But think about it…he cheated on her, humiliated her in public, instead of fighting to get her back he gets with some bust down and gets her pregnant. My pride wouldn’t have let me. Working at a diner or not, somethings just are NOT ok.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:06 pm
@Cuzzo – reference the Game…girl Malik is so sexy…on the show he’s such a mama’s boy…I like the way his and Tosha’s relationship has grown this season thus far. He’s become more independent. Did you see it when Rick Fox’s mama gave Tosha hell…the mirror don’t look too good does it…lol
The Game – Jason is a jerk. He’s surprised he got served divorce papers–he needed some humble pie.
I don’t think that baby is Derwin’s. She’s a skank and I’m just glad Melanie is finally getting some backbone.
Did anybody see last Friday’s show? I missed it. If so, what happened?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:06 pm
Thanks Holly-imma check it out later.
@ Nick..Chile im so lost..now if they moved the game over to bravo or style..i’d know what happened when and where and why.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:07 pm
yay i come by on lunch and ya’ll are talkin about one of my fav shows… not that i ever watch it since unlike nicki i dont have dvr and i always forget about anything not on E, Bravo, Comedy Central or TLC
(
and btw Real’s hair looks gross.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:07 pm
Friday’s show was boring. Basically about Jason and Kelly. Jason slept with some groupie, Kelly saw it. She went out with her girls the same night and got a number herself but wasn’t really thinking of calling until she caught Jason with the chick coming out of his bathroom the next morning.
Sorry if I ruined that for anyone…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:07 pm
@Daisy
“instead of fighting to get her back he gets with some bust down and gets her pregnant.”
i do not see this part this way. he did try to get her back and she was not having it…how much more did the man have to try??? she moved on, and so did he.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:08 pm
Shelia you can catch online episodes at surfthechannel.com
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:08 pm
But he didn’t REALLY move on. He still had her in the back of her mind. Had he truly fought for her, I honestly believe she would’ve have taken him back.
I’m hoping the baby isn’t his though…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:09 pm
* his mind. Sorry. Shouldn’t be typing and texting at the same time.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:10 pm
@Comeback
“Hummy I don’t think your soul mate keeps you from being real. But why do we always associate the constant struggle to love. Im not saying there won’t be challenges, but i would think going a challenge with asoul mate is much better than going through one who you throw a dart at a metaphoric relationship wall to get.”
I don’t think loving is hard. It should not be a job or hard to you. I have seeen so many people that love being in the soft and squishy part of the relationship but, when it is time to grind they are a no show. Or they love being with you as long as they are comfortable.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:10 pm
@Shelia
“I don’t think that baby is Derwin’s. She’s a skank ”
she is? i musta missed a whole lot of episodes. what skanky stuff has she done?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:11 pm
Cuzzo, I think we are calling her a skank cause we don’t want it to be Derwin’s
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:11 pm
@ cuzzo..
Girl, how could you fix that peak???? Would you recommend cutting it. lol This girl in high school. Her’s was the worst. It used to be dandruffy….Lol…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:12 pm
@ 80’s baby….no dandruffy. I’m over here cracking up at your disection of the peak _ ROFL!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:13 pm
“Would ya’ll have stayed with Derwin after he got ole girl pregnant?”
NOPE.. woulda been too butt hurt to stay ..
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:13 pm
“It used to be dandruffy….Lol”
Now that’s just bad… yeah he could cut it! I got rid of mine!! It can work for anyone
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:13 pm
@daisy
” Had he truly fought for her, I honestly believe she would’ve have taken him back.”
omg. what did the man have to do? ppl get tired you know…and if someone keeps tellin me no, no, no, no, no…i don’t hear yea, yea, yea, yea, yea
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:13 pm
since yall know how to get tv episodes can some one tell me how get making the band 4?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:16 pm
@nickisunshine
“Come on in, where’s it warm… let it envelope you, if you will. LOL”
uuuuh? I dont know how to take this statement.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:16 pm
@ Cuzzo – true love never gets tired. He was WRONG and it was his responsibility to fix it. NOT get some other heffa pregnant. Mel can (and was) do better. Unfortunately he showed up and professed his love AFTER him and Janae (granted it was because of Mel) fell apart. Now Mel is all googly over his ragedy baby daddy %$^.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:17 pm
@80’s
laser hair removal. i don’t mind the peak anyway – he still cute
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:17 pm
Anitra have you looked on mtv.com?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:20 pm
Yep holly I see it, im gonna catch up when I get to work tonight !!
thanks girl
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:21 pm
@daisy
“Now Mel is all googly over his ragedy baby daddy %$^.”
see….so it’s not over
men are not like us…they do not read deep. if it looks like she’s not down with the program on the surface, he’s gonna keep it moving. u sound jilted (no offense, really – i know ya’ll never heard me say that, lol) i mean like this has happened to you.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Anytime!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:23 pm
@ cuzzo & holly….. I guess I was thinking it’s part of the hairline so it shouldn’t be messed with… LOL
But cuzzo if it had flakes all in it I bet you would mind…. Ha Ha
But nah I would not have been able to stay.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:23 pm
“@nickisunshine
“Come on in, where’s it warm… let it envelope you, if you will. LOL”
uuuuh? I dont know how to take this statement.”
LMAO. Humble… it does sound like I’m over here deepp and widddde. But I didn’t mean it like that.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:25 pm
@Cuzzo
“men are not like us…they do not read deep. if it looks like she’s not down with the program on the surface, he’s gonna keep it moving. u sound jilted (no offense, really – i know ya’ll never heard me say that, lol) i mean like this has happened to you.”
Correct.
@Daisy
” true love never gets tired. He was WRONG and it was his responsibility to fix it. NOT get some other heffa pregnant. Mel can (and was) do better. Unfortunately he showed up and professed his love AFTER him and Janae (granted it was because of Mel) fell apart. Now Mel is all googly over his ragedy baby daddy %$^.”
I am not going to be a living example of a Jackass episode to get back with you. If you say you don’t want me I believe you.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:25 pm
@80’s
“But cuzzo if it had flakes all in it I bet you would mind…. Ha Ha”
we can smack some dax or sulfur 8 up in that muh
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:26 pm
@ Cuzzo – I’m not jilted at all. If you’ve read anything I’ve written I’m actually very much in love and very happy. Thanks for the concern tho and no offense was taken.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:28 pm
@daisy
“If you say you don’t want me I believe you.” (humble)
see. lol. that’s how they be.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:31 pm
see ladies…you can tell a man but so many times to kick rocks b4 he does just that. you can’t be flip-flopping. then u gonna cry about why didn’t he fight for us? how many times/things does he have to do?
ure truely gonna be mad and not realizing what you have and are willing to work with until he’s moved on.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:32 pm
This isn’t the case for every man or woman. Just wanted to clarify on the generalizations being made.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:35 pm
nothing is the case for EVERY person…there will always be carebears running with smurfs and unicorns
(we have a pet unicorn in here right? if not, i think we should get one)
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:35 pm
lolol….before this explodes into something it shouldnt
don’t expect men to be mind-readers. Or pick up subtleties. It rarely works.
Direct communication is best.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:37 pm
“Direct communication is best.”
*slaps why so on the @ss*
(ooh i think he liked it) thank you!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:40 pm
“*slaps why so on the @ss*
(ooh i think he liked it) thank you!”
Why does this remind me of a bad experience with a girl I REALLY wasnt feeling.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:43 pm
@Humble
“Why does this remind me of a bad experience with a girl I REALLY wasnt feeling.”
lol…too aggresive?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:53 pm
@cuzzo
“lol…too aggresive?”
I LOVE aggressive women. Just not this time. She felt it necessary to touch my backside. This chic was terrible. She looked like a mutant beaver.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:55 pm
“She looked like a mutant beaver.”
Humble did you feel this way before or after you gave her your number?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 3:59 pm
@Holly GoLightly
“Humble did you feel this way before or after you gave her your number?”
You buggin. I never ever ever gave her my number. Her nickname was dirty draws. I don’t mess with women called dirty draws.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:01 pm
@Cuzzo
“men are not like us…they do not read deep. if it looks like she’s not down with the program on the surface, he’s gonna keep it moving.”
maybe we shouldnt be like that? Maybe women should learn to say what is on their mind. If we want him back we shouldnt tell him no we dont…. i agree men should know better but how do we expect them to know when to keep pushing and when not to keep pushing if we dont make that line clear/say what we want/mean?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:07 pm
@humble
“I LOVE aggressive women. Just not this time.”
I’m reading…I love aggresive women as long as they look good. this is why there will never be a good looking rapist. i dunno wtf happened in kobe’s case. the b!tch got greedy
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:07 pm
“Her nickname was dirty draws.”
Oh wow… my bad…
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:12 pm
@ humble…
“Her nickname was dirty draws.”
What in the hell???? GROSS!!!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:12 pm
@QB
“Maybe women should learn to say what is on their mind. ”
yes. i will give u a slap on the @ss too for this.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:13 pm
I do NOT heart Kobe for what he did but I swear he looks so cute in that guitar heroes commercial
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:20 pm
@80’s Baby
“What in the hell???? GROSS!!!!”
Right. So you see why I don’t want her grabbing and slapping my a*s.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:21 pm
I love Kobe!!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:24 pm
“I LOVE aggressive women. Just not this time. She felt it necessary to touch my backside. This chic was terrible. She looked like a mutant beaver.”
LMAO. I need someone to draw me a pic.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:24 pm
@Holly & Anitra i love kobe too. i dont believe for one minute that woman was telling a bit of truth.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:24 pm
@humble
re:dirty aka DD
sometimes ppl make stuff up to harrass folks…it may not have been true.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:29 pm
@qb
“i dont believe for one minute that woman was telling a bit of truth.”
speak the truth girl!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:32 pm
@ cuzzo…. But still I’m glad that Humble didn’t take a chance and find out…… LOL
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:34 pm
@cuzzo he might be dumb enough to cheat on his wife but i dont think he is dumb enough to force her into it,
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:35 pm
@cuzzo
“re:dirty aka DD
sometimes ppl make stuff up to harrass folks…it may not have been true.”
Didn’t know. Didn’t want to find out. She looked like it. That was good enough for me.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:36 pm
I dont believe it either QB!
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:36 pm
@nickisunshine
“LMAO. I need someone to draw me a pic.”
http://files.turbosquid.com/Preview/Content_on_10_5_2006_01_07_18/beaverVray1desc1.jpg675454e7-ba98-454f-bcef-fe588c8bf9e0Large.jpg
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:41 pm
Humble that is hilarious
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:43 pm
@humble
“She looked like it. ”
wow.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:46 pm
yall are funny today
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 4:58 pm
so did you all end up getting tickets to see our president elect sworn in?
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 5:22 pm
it gets so lonely here at the end of the day
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 7:43 pm
@ Daisy – Thanks for The Game update. Now Kelly probably wants Jason back…the cycle begins like with Melanie and Derwin.
@ Holly – Thanks. I got a little time before CSI Miami come on so I’ll see if it’s there.
@ Cuzzo – Ref “The Game” – When Janae went to Miami with her friends, she wasn’t thinking about Derwin. It’s possible that somebody else could be the baby’s daddy. .And yes, I called her a skank because I want him and Melanie to live happily ever after…lol
@ Humble – LOL..Can I use this “mutant beaver?” But how does one look–Ugh.
Monday, November 10, 2008 at 9:31 pm
comeback? hello? i know u don’t check ure email – i need something from u…
email me
Tuesday, November 11, 2008 at 4:07 am
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